Most New Year’s resolutions are about doing. What will you do more? What will you do better? What will you do less of? Or what will you try not to do at all? For countless years, I have been no different. But this year, I want to focus more on the being rather than the doing. A lot of changes have happened in the past couple years and in those changes, I may have managed to carve a more defined sense of purpose, but I also somehow lost my sense of self in the midst of it all. I realize now, that before I can do more in this world we were given the responsibility to care for, and do better for a society we were meant to change, I must first be more, be better, and just…
be happy. For me.
People always like to give me the advice “do more of what makes you happy” but really, I just need to be in that (head)space more. Be in that state of mind more.
It sounds simple but I really have no idea where to begin. Thankfully, a dear friend suggested a read through The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World and I think I’ll start there. See, this old friend was once my kindred spirit; we shared aspirations, creativity, and a love for a better world. But as the years went by, she came to her own kind of happy that I couldn’t understand and soon our spirits drifted to passing ships in the night. I too, am now in pursuit of my kind of happy. Not for the sake of our friendship (although I’ll admit, it has been missed), but for my mental health, for my well-being, for my future…for myself. I’ve never been shy about believing that the world deserves to be happy. But now, I believe that I deserve it too.
I have no idea where this journey will take me, but I hope to take you with me. And who knows, maybe you’ll find your kind of happy along the way too.
DAY 1. Love, Ro