Once we can see life in its wider perspective, once we are able to see our role in its drama with some degree of humility, and once we are able to laugh at ourselves, we come to the fourth and final quality of the mind, which is the ability to accept our life in all its pain, imperfection, and beauty.
Acceptance is the opposite of resignation and defeat. For example, the activists you see fighting for equality and rights are tirelessly trying to create a better world for the rest of its inhabitants, but it’s also likely that their activism comes from a deeper acceptance of what the it is. Although we’re meant to live in joy, it does not mean that life will be easy or painless. It means that we can turn our faces to the wind and accept that this is a storm we simply must pass through. We cannot succeed by denying what exists. The acceptance of reality is the only place from which change can begin. When you grow mentally and emotionally, you are able to accept anything that happens to you. You accept the inevitable frustrations and hardships as part of the warp and weft of life.
So the question is not “how do we escape it?” The question should be “how can we use this as something positive?” Acceptance allows us to move into the fullness of joy. It allows us to engage with life on its own terms rather than rail against the fact that life is not as we would wish. It allows us not to struggle against the day-to-day current and helps us understand that stress and anxiety come from our expectations of how life should be. When we are able to accept that life is how it is, not as we think it should be, we are able to ease the ride; we can go from that rough turbulence with all its suffering, stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction, to the smooth moving waves with greater ease, comfort, and happiness.
We can learn to sway with life’s triumphs and tribulations when we see that in the end, all things are meant to be well. And if we can believe this faithfully and confidently now, we can truly see this in the end through the fullness of joy.
(To be continued…)
DAY 33. Love, Ro